Back to the Basics: Keep Your Relationship Alive
There are tons of sources and/or material to read, listen to, and interact with if we ever need help with our relationships. It seems most relationships would last because of this fact. However, the divorce rate continues to increase in our society, while many choose not to enter the union of marriage. Everyone has an opinion on how to make a relationship last, but everyone doesn't put in the work to make it a reality. Action is way more effective than talking (in some cases) when it comes to our relationships. We just need to go back to the basics so we don't lose sight of why our relationship is important to us. A few of the basic ways are listed as follows:
- Continue dating. Remember how excited it was to go on the first date with your partner. You looked forward to wearing a nice outfit, going to a new place, and just having a new experience together. This is what started the relationship, so it should never end.
- Make your home a work-free zone. We spend the majority of our time at work due to the fact that most of us have 40+ hour work weeks. With that being said, make your home a work-free zone. Make your partner the main focus once you arrive home from work. Too often, we get involved in the details of our day and don't realize how work carries over into our personal lives and relationship. Try to maintain the work/life balance by always keeping your relationship as the priority.
- Get away from it all.If you have a full-time career and kids, you understand how life can just get away from you. It's important to take a step back and let it all go, for at least 15 minutes or so anyway. Decide what is best for you and your partner and make a choice to check-in daily, weekly, etc. Use this time without interruption from the kids, television, computers, or phones. This check-in time is all about the partnership you have and making an effort to stay connected outside of your daily obligations.
- Break the routine. Having a routine is great but it makes for a very boring relationship. Spontaneity can put the spark and desire back into a dull relationship. We are all creatures of habit in some form or another. Make a conscious effort to do things out of your norm. This will also show your partner you can go with the flow of things in order to make them happy.
- Never stop communicating.Communication makes a great foundation for a stable relationship. You should always talk openly with your partner because only great relationships exist in the light. Communication allows you and your partner to hold on to the good things, avoid the negative things, and to continue the work to maintain your bond.
- Know what makes your partner feel loved. We all give and accept love differently. Although we may think buying someone a gift is the ultimate sign of love, your partner may feel that spending quality time is the best way. We can't make our way of loving acceptable to our partner and vice versa. Have a conversation with your partner if you don't know what makes them feel loved. That in itself could make a world of difference in your relationship.
These are just a few things you can do to make sure your relationship doesn't fade away. Above all, never give up. Your relationship will last if you make the conscious effort to always try to make it work.