Online Dating and Relationship Expectations
Online dating has changed how people value romantic relationships and potential partners. There are so many apps for your smart phone and dating websites that it seems your options are almost unlimited. This is the problematic approach that so many people take with dating in today's technological climate of finding that perfect companion. If you sign-up for one or more of these apps or websites you're bombarded with a plethora of online profiles. Depending on what app or website you use depends on how much information you need or want to put in your profile for potential partners to look through.
Apps like Tinder, let you put in a brief description of what you're looking for, upload a few pictures, and then you are ready to start browsing. There is a very limited amount of information given in these profiles, so it's hard to know who you are really talking to. Most people who use apps like these want something casual over something serious. Commitment is generally not something that either party is looking for with these apps. They are free to use and do not require much of a time commitment so meeting your ideal partner will be challenging.
Websites/apps like OkCupid, are primarily free to use but have pay-to-use features. These websites allow you to fill out a profile, answer questions, and browse potential matches based on the percentage of how highly they matched what you are looking for. This expectation that if someone is not a certain match percentage they are not a good fit for you, this is not necessarily true. If you met someone out at a bar and dated for years how likely is it that they would be a 95% match to your dating profile? Not very. This method will eliminate a variety of people who could be a great fit for you.
Websites/apps like Match, have much more extensive profiles and questionnaires and requires a subscription to use it. These websites have you fill out characteristics about yourself and what you are looking for in a potential partner to help with the matching process. Some websites have personality questionnaires to better understand your outlook and belief system to match you with someone similar. These pay-to-use websites are the best type to use because someone who is paying to use the website is likely looking for a serious commitment.
While many people do find a partner through these dating websites and apps, it is also easier for people to walk away and find someone else. The expression "there are plenty of fish in the sea" has never been more accurate. If you don't like one thing about that person you met online, you can forget about them and move on to the next candidate. The problem is, with this variety of people who you wouldn't have met otherwise, there is always the idea that there could be someone better out there. People think they can find someone who will match their idea of the perfect partner. There are thousands of options in front of you so there is one person who ticks off every box, right? For some, love isn't worth the work anymore. People are more willing to walk away from a relationship then work on an issue. They expect they can find someone who will be everything they ever wanted.