Understanding Grief, Knowing Change


Grief is a topic that hits everyone at some point in time.  For some of us, though, those feelings linger. And for still another aspect of our population, grief returns to haunt them. If any of these describe you right now, find comfort in the knowledge that you aren't doing anything wrong. Grief is different for everyone and thus has to be treated on an individual basis. 

  • Triggering Grief: What triggers grief is highly individual to the person, but a common theme as to what triggers it is being taken out of your comfort zone while reminded of your loved one who has passed. While there are a few working theories with graphs and estimated steps (such as the Change Curve, or the 5 stages of grief that are popularly quoted, and misquoted) grief is highly personal and should not be expect to fit in a box of expectations. Your grief is your grief, and it's ok to feel it how you are feeling it.

  • What can be done: If you feel you need help with your grief, it's important to reach and not try to internalize it. Talking to a friend can be useful, or see your counselor or therapist so they can help you through it. Even though it's highly personal, you don't have to feel it alone. If you are still afflicted after what you think is an unreasonable amount of time, you may be suffering from what is called "Complicated Grief" and require a specific regiment of psychotherapy. Sometimes called 'persistent complex bereavement disorder', it's considered if you are grieving for longer than a year with no noticeable progress in or fading of grief. It is important that you don't self diagnose your symptoms and that you allow a professional to determine your diagnosis. There may also be a group sessions near you to share your grief with others going through similar experiences.

Contact our office today for one on one counseling. Remember that you never have to suffer in silence, and to not feel guilty if you need help. You are not alone in your suffering.

If you are in immediate crisis, you can also text home to 741741 and a crisis counselor will help you.