Heartbreaks are, well, heartbreaking. The sudden loss of the person you thought would be by your side forever is devastating. You may still catch yourself hearing a joke, so you turn to watch your partner laugh, only to realize they're gone. But after you're done comfort binging romcoms and Ben and Jerry's, it's time to take care of you. The loss your relationship leaves doesn't mean the end of your world. It's time to create a fresh start.
Here are five steps to take back your life and move past a lost love. You can come out of this smarter, more confident, and more financially stable and prepared for a new love.
- Look after your health.
After a break up it's important to take care of yourself. Now's a great time to start a new exercise routine or get a massage. You could even go all out on a spa day. Try healthy new Pinterest meals or try your hand at meal planning. Meal planning can be a great way to make your food budget last longer too!
- Pick up a new hobby.
Besides taking your mind off your ex, a new hobby is a great way to meet new people. This can spur exciting new friendships and even a potential new romance. Look for classes around your neighborhood. Libraries are a great source for free or low-cost classes.
- Reconnect with friends and family.
No one wants to be that person who disappears in a relationship, but we all do a little. After a breakup, your friends and family are there to support you and help you get back on your feet. Listen to them, and go have some fun creating new experiences. You don't need your ex to have fun.
- Spend some extra time focusing on your career.
Like friends and family, sometimes your career can take a back seat during a relationship. Now is a great time to throw yourself headfirst into the runnings. Keeping busy will keep you distracted which in turn keeps the heartbreak at bay. Plus, a promotion on the horizon is always rewarding!
- Make your money work for you.
Relationships can be expensive! Date nights, little gifts, eating for two, birthdays, anniversaries. Make sure to get a financial advisor that gets you. The right advisor can teach you to set up your money in a way that you never have to stress about big purchases again. The average wedding costs about $35,000. Even if your big day is years away, the right financial advisor can help you start planning now.